I recently asked some personal questions… People were quick to jump the boat if they were in my shoes. Does love not account for anything anymore? Are females so shy that they can’t confront their spouses or other? To be able to pull each other into a serious conversation about a life together, what’s bother one, what the other does that hurts, why are you like this – and not get made at one another… That’s a marriage. Sure, once and a while get mad, vent. With words and nothing more. If you can’t vent to your lover, the person who is suppose to be your best friend in the whole world, then who can you vent to? Yes my husband has issues, like any little boy who was spoiled rotten gorwing up would, but – HE DOES CHANGE.
We both have. Neither of us drink like we use to. We’ve both grown up, and we’ve done it together. We talk, and he has admitted he is stressed ad a little depressed. I’m going to be taking him to our family doctor as soon as we have the money for it. Times are hard, and that increases stress for everyone – not just the one who does the bills.
My husband no longer enjoys hurting animals. In fact he is still in mourning of his parakeet. He had her for five years. He treated her like gold. He no longer steals from the bill account. BTW: our money is together. Not just mine. Some people just can’t manage money. He is one of those people.
I no longer get depressed and angry at him and go shopping for useless crap I don’t need. I better manage our bills.
I love my husband. He is the only man I have ever been with. And I plan on keeping my vows. He showers me with love and attention. Tells me I am pretty and smart all the time. Asks me why I am so mature for my age as well. And he always asks if I am happy, and how he be a better husband. Tell, me should I have jumped the boat when so many said to?
So I ask you again, why do women give up so quickly?
Are we really that weak as a whole?
I think women have become quicker to give up as the value placed on marriage has sadly decreased. Its becoming more and more common to divorce so marriage isnt thought of a ‘forever’ thing as much as it used to be.
I personally think this is a tragedy because you’re right in saying that the purpose of marriage is for you and your spouse to rely on each other and grow together. But ’till death do you part’ seems to be turning into ‘until it all gets hard’. But if you can’t depend on the support and help of your spouse when it all gets dificult, the person who knows you better than anyone else, when it is needed then who can you rely on?
And as with all relationships, there will be rough patches-its unavoidable!-but nowadays more people (women and men) seem to be ready to give in and start afresh whenever this happens because divorces are more comon, and friends and family seem to always try to convince a women in a difficult marriage to leave.
I dont think its that women are giving up so quickly because they are weak, but because it can be confusing and stressful when a marriage or relationship seems to be breaking down, and the social norms of society seem to be encouraging stopping and starting again with a clean slate. It doesnt help that friends and family also usually encourage this so it can make a woman feel like she has no other choice and the only way to help the situation is to break the bond holding it together.
But as I said, it seems a great shame to me because overcoming hard times and difficult obsticles can make a relationship stronger! Well done for sticking by your husband through those times, it must’ve been hard but you’ve proven you value your marriage and relationship!
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Women in my opinion rely on emotions over logic. This explains the overall population’s manic behavior and the sole cause of all the problems that men have.
There’s a saying here in Tennessee "If women didn’t have a pussy, then there would be a bounty for them all".
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Okay. I don’t know what you’re talking about. I didn’t read whatever question you’re posting about. It would help if you explained that. The only thing that caught my attention was that "he no longer ENJOYS hurting animals". WTF?
To answer your question . . . NO I don’t give up easily. I work on my marriage like it’s a full time job because it’s that important to me.
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WOW! it’s been a whole 5 days since you were complaining about your husband and saying he was abusive to your animals for the last four years! What an amazing turn around!!! Give it another week honey, you’ll be complaining about him again, and everyone once again will tell you to leave! If you don’t like the answer, don’t ask the question.
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I guess they don’t want to die young.
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I wouldn’t call it giving up quickly. In my book it’s being strong and not be taken advantage of by our husbands. My husband is the best husband in the whole world. The best thing that I love about my husband is….his love for me. But as history shows, men can be deceitful and put on a whole visage for their wives/girlfriends/family, ie. Boston stranger, Ted Bundy and I’m sure there’s more. You just never know. I’m not saying all men are bad, but we woman are not weak. Just smart.
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I don’t think women give up easily or quickly. Women in general will suffer through anything for the people that she loves even if it cost her her life. People tell wives to leave their husband not because women give up easily but since these people are not involved directly, they can be more objective and let’s admit it, husbands seldom changed, it is the wives who have to change.
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I think women have become quicker to give up as the value placed on marriage has sadly decreased. Its becoming more and more common to divorce so marriage isnt thought of a ‘forever’ thing as much as it used to be.
I personally think this is a tragedy because you’re right in saying that the purpose of marriage is for you and your spouse to rely on each other and grow together. But ’till death do you part’ seems to be turning into ‘until it all gets hard’. But if you can’t depend on the support and help of your spouse when it all gets dificult, the person who knows you better than anyone else, when it is needed then who can you rely on?
And as with all relationships, there will be rough patches-its unavoidable!-but nowadays more people (women and men) seem to be ready to give in and start afresh whenever this happens because divorces are more comon, and friends and family seem to always try to convince a women in a difficult marriage to leave.
I dont think its that women are giving up so quickly because they are weak, but because it can be confusing and stressful when a marriage or relationship seems to be breaking down, and the social norms of society seem to be encouraging stopping and starting again with a clean slate. It doesnt help that friends and family also usually encourage this so it can make a woman feel like she has no other choice and the only way to help the situation is to break the bond holding it together.
But as I said, it seems a great shame to me because overcoming hard times and difficult obsticles can make a relationship stronger! Well done for sticking by your husband through those times, it must’ve been hard but you’ve proven you value your marriage and relationship!
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What can I say; we Americans have created a "disposable" society. If something stops working, the quickest and easiest solution is to toss it away and get another- one that’s new and exciting…… at least that seems to be a common attitude on Y!A
If you dig a little deeper, I think a lot of respondents simply have no idea what to do in complicated relationship situations. But, being small minded or narcissistic, they assume there must not BE another solution than breakup. Maybe that goes back to the whole "disposable" theme. In other words, if you yourself don’t know how to fix it, you shouldn’t bother at all. It’s no secret that a lot of people simply have poor relationship skills, which I think is both A cause and A result of the high divorce rate.
It has to be said that trying to "work out the relationship" probably won’t work if one or both parties simply don’t value things like honesty or commitment or communication.
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A strong woman doesn’t put up with these things . People don’t change . Believe me . They just learn how to manipulate . My ex , never got to the point of communication and still to this day does not know how . I don’t give him the time of day now. You see ,some people realize they need to change to create the bond , and some never have known how to love therefore don’t !. Its all in whats important to you and what is important to him. Some people never see beyond thier own 2 eyes!
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